Thursday, 29 September 2016

Our wants and our parents responds towards them

For today's blog, we were assigned to do a task individually. For this task, I'll be discussing about things we wanted when we were kids that our parents didn't give to us based on the novel Secret Life of Bees. Everyone have experienced the moments when their parents don’t care about their wants. Based on the novel The Secret Life of Bees, the main character, Lily was never given what she really wanted. Well, maybe by saying that is a little bit exaggerating things but she deserved better from his farther. Her farther hardly conveyed any actions of love towards her. It was a critical situation until she called her own farther T. Ray. Like any other kids, Lily needed love as she desperately tried to find one by running from her house.


The most obvious part of not getting what she wanted is when she didn’t get to wear the latest fashion. We all had this. The moment when we want to follow the latest trending clothing style. Unfortunately, our parents will be the judgemental king and queen. Well it will fine as long as they have the same taste like most of the young people but the problem is they are still clinging to their old school clothing style which will only make our friends laugh at us. As for me, I always wanted outfits with a fit cutting but my parents bought me an outfit with a very huge cutting as if I was a contestant in ‘The Biggest Loser’ television show. It’s like, I could fit both my thighs in a single sleeve of the shirt. So, there I was, walking in the crowds with my classmates in a shopping mall, wearing old school outfits whilst the others were wearing elegant and nice looking trending outfits. Wished I had a pail with me to hide my face.

The other part we can see in the novel is the lack of freedom. Lily could not hangout with her friends because her farther is really strict. She also need to sell peaches on the holidays. She barely had any free time and even when she had some, she couldn’t spend them well. I don’t know about you guys but actually I’m quite the opposite. I learned since I was very young to travel by myself. I took a public bus by myself by memorizing the numbers to go somewhere when I was eight. After that day, my parents had been keeping their faith that I can take care of myself. I could go to KL tower by myself from my school after my school hours. I can do almost everything except for bad things and anything that can cost too much money. Having optimistic parents is a good thing though sometimes it is the opposite since they couldn’t care less about their children’s safety.

Unlike a child’s temperament which is strongly based on the parent’s behavior towards their children, child’s wants can be influenced by others easily. Sometimes, parents just couldn’t keep up with their children’s wants and it is normal for them to not grant them with those things. Sometimes our parents just didn’t give them because it’s for our own good. For example, they forbid us from eating too much sweets because they are bad for our teeth. This may sounds cliché but people tend to forget this kind of thing and start to blame their parents instead of considering the pros and cons wisely. I hope this blog have broaden your mind about a child’s wants and the decision for the parents that they have to make for their child’s sake. 

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